I’ve always been a firm believer that individuals have a right to work out the sexual strategy that is right for them – and that included rejecting people on the basis of their HIV status. We’ve known for some years now that someone on treatment is very unlikely to pass on the virus. Well you’re more likely to be infected from sex using a condom with someone who isn’t on treatment than you are to be infected from sex without a condom with someone who is on treatment.So when someone says that they’re going to avoid John because he has HIV (and is on treatment), and then runs off with Jonah, whose status is unknown, they’re taking a far bigger sexual risk.Regardless of what your reasoning to either call or not call him again, his HIV status shouldn’t be a factor.
I’ve been living with diagnosed HIV for many years.Growing evidence suggests that as HIV medicines become more efficacious, HIV-positive individuals taking antiretroviral medications are significantly less likely to transmit the virus to a sexual partner than someone not taking medication.In fact, in a study of almost 3,000 monogamous serodiscordant couples, it was found that with the use of antiretroviral therapy, only 3.4 percent of sexually active couples would transmit HIV from the infected to uninfected partner over a period of 100 years.In that time I’ve had my share of sexual and romantic rejections on the basis of my HIV status.While these don’t make up any of my happiest memories, I’ve tried to take it on the chin. Firstly, as a safer sex strategy, it just doesn’t work.